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G-Heart: A Poem


Life is not unidirectional
Life is not a straight line
Life is not a bed of roses

Sometimes it’s sweet
Sometimes it’s sour
Sometimes it satisfies
Sometimes it sucks

But whatever life presents to you
You could choose gratefulness
You could choose grudginess

Choose joy and you will be lighter
Choose anger and you will be darker
Choose joy and your sight will be clearer
Choose anger and your sight will be dimmer
Choose joy and your character will grow
Choose anger and your character will shrink
Choose joy and you will be inspiring
Choose anger and you will be pitiful

Which G fills  your heart?
Grate-full or Grudge-full?

Inspired by the true life story of a man whom I know. After he arrived home from a trip, he was informed that his only car had been stolen during his absence. His surprising reply was, “Thank God!” When prodded further, “Why will you thank God about a disappointment?” He said,”I thank God we have something that people desire enough to steal. I thank God that it is not us who are going about stealing from others.” It was from Him that I learned, “If you have lost anything, be thankful that you haven’t lost everything.”

So, dear friend, what have you lost? What pains have you experienced in recent times? Choose to remain thankful and in the end, God will be glorified. He will turn everything around in your favor.


Pastors should be careful what they preach. Stop making guarantees on behalf of God, else people will try to use Him. He’s not MMM
“You do this, God will do that. You act this way God will do this for you.” 
Preacher, be careful! People are getting more and more disappointed with God. These messages are producing more anger than motivation to several observers (including many in the church). They are looking warily at both you and God as charlatans.  
People are getting more and more disappointed with God.
Friend, there is no guarantee that if you do this and that with respect to God, He will give some predictable output. Now, someone thinks that I’m shaking the table. Well, I have learned that everything rises and falls on your relationship with Him. Yes, your relationship with the Holy Spirit. If you are too busy for a relationship with Him, your future in God is uncertain. God is too big to be used. Don’t be misled by testimonies. You heard how someone gave some offering or made a vow to God, and got a miracle. You were motivated and did same, there was no result. You went a notch higher and increased the sacrifice, yet no result. You heard a testimony of how some person fasted for three days and got a spiritual gift or answer to prayer. You replicated the act and didn’t get any result. You felt that, maybe, if you increased yours to seven, fourteen or twenty-one days, God would pity you and answer. Unfortunately,  the heavens remained closed. After series of disappointments like these, you painfully and logically concluded that it is either these things that pastors and bible teachers preach are false or that God is partial. You could even be a pastor currently in a crisis about your faith in God. You are wondering if what you had been preaching is still tenable in today’s world. 
I make bold to say that God is not partial! He is faithful to His word. His word is not outdated. Don’t be moved by the recent news of certain notable persons kissing God goodbye. He is looking for you. Yes, he wants you. He is calling you to a more intimate relationship with him. He wants your heart. He wants your genuine attention. He wants you to love Him not for what he can give you or do for you, but for who He is. He wants your love,  even if he chooses not to answer your prayers. He wants you to come to a place where He is your final bus-stop and you don’t have any Plan B, C, D or E outside of His will for you.
In my opinion, King Saul did less than the sin of adultery and murder that David committed, yet God forsook him and declared that David was his favoured one. Was God partial? Maybe He was. But you see, God is interested in the heart. That’s why we need to understand God’s ways. David was a man with a broken and contrite heart. When Saul’s sin was exposed to him, he replied, “I have sinned. But please honour me before the elders of my people and before Israel…” (1 Samuel 15:30). However, when David’s sin was brought to his awareness, he said, “I have sinned against the Lord” (2 Samuel 12:13). “Have mercy upon me O God… Against you, you only have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight” (Psalm 51:1, 4). So, if you were God, who would have found favour with you – Saul or David? 
The key question  is, ‘What is the state of your heart?’ How is your relationship with Jesus? Do you give Him time in worship, prayer and the study of His word? Do you seek him genuinely? Or is your prayer life all about, ‘give me this or that, kill my enemies, do not put me to shame…etc?’ Are you really interested in finding out more about Him, His likes and dislikes, His ways of relating with men, the secrets to the manifestation of His glory on the earth? 
When God disappoints us, it’s not because He is incapable, it’s  rather a sign that we don’t know and understand Him as we ought to.
What is your motivation for going to church or calling yourself a Christian? Were you raised in a Christian family and are yet to find out who God is for yourself? Did a problem or personal crisis bring you to God and He solved it for you? After sometime with Him, He  wants you to  know Him more closely; to learn and understand who He is by study, fellowship with believers, prayer and revelation by the Holy Spirit.
In conclusion, when God disappoints us, it’s not because He is incapable, it’s  rather a sign that we don’t know and understand Him as we ought to.
Think on this.

Disappointments are a Blessing!

Rainbow after storm. Photo credit: http://positivepsychologynews.com/
Rainbow after storm.
Photo credit: http://positivepsychologynews.com/

A friend recently got promoted at work. However, I recall him mentioning that not too long ago, he had had such a dismal performance in the same organization that made his chances of promotion at the time very slim.

God always knows what He’s up to, but we are always clueless as to what he’s doing in our lives. When Jesus delayed and permitted the death of Lazarus, it resulted in disappointment and sorrow to his family. But in the end, their faith was built up and their joy was boundless after the dead and decaying corpse of Lazarus was raised back to life (John 11:44).

Similarly in our lives, God is the Potter, molding us into what He wants us to be. We like to sing the song that says,

“Spirit of the Living God, Fall afresh on me, Melt me, Mold me, Fill me, Use me.”

However, when the breaking and melting starts, we cry and sometimes lose hope because we think our heavenly Father has forsaken us and is making life unbearable for us. Nonetheless, it is only the vessel that God himself has broken and remolded according to his desire that He can fill up with his power and use to show forth His praise to the world and this generation. The breaking, melting and remolding process reconstructs our character to conform to the nature of Christ.

Your disappointment might be a miscarriage, relationship failure, marital delay, promotion delay, business/career stagnation or the death of a loved one. When we face disappointments that make us think that God’s name is being shamed in our lives, we should pray, “Lord, glorify yourself in my life in the way that you choose. Let this situation work out for my good and promotion in the end!”

Disappointments do not bring happiness in themselves. But I must confess that although the process might be hard, we will find out that God is faithful and will make things work out for our good!

Remain blessed,