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How Sudden is Sudden Success?

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One year ago, Whatsapp was acquired by Facebook. People, especially mainstream media, said Jan Koum, the co-founder, became an overnight success.

Success is indeed impressive and attractive. It comes with lots of attention, plenty of perks, an increased level of popularity etc. Many times I’ve seen people become successful ‘overnight’.  But come to think of it, does success really happen overnight or suddenly? Since many people do not understand the process that leads to outstanding success, some are tempted to sit by, waiting for their own train of overnight success to stop at their doorstep, as though it’s an Alice in Wonderland experience.

When Dustin Moskovitz, Facebook co-founder was asked how he felt about Facebook’s overnight success, he replied,

If by ‘overnight success’ you mean staying up and coding all night, every night for six years straight, then it felt quite tiring
and stressful.

E. A. Adeboye wrote,

Some sudden promotions are a result of a hidden period of conscientious, deliberate and sustained work of excellence.

Finally, Mike Murdock said,

The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine.

 

Summarily, overnight success isn’t usually by a sudden process.

What are you doing regularly to help you change that unpleasant job soon?
What are you doing daily to attain academic excellence?
What are you doing regularly to be be the healthy person you dream to be?
What are you doing daily to reduce that weight that’s become a concern?
What are you doing daily to earn that coveted promotion?

Luck is really opportunity meeting you prepared for it. So, what quiet price are you paying daily to get lucky?

Do you have any experience that illustrates this? Please share it.

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The Beautifully Dressed Umpires at #Wimbledon 2015

Tennis happens to be one of my favorite sports. Interestingly, I’ve never played it before. Anyway, I followed the 2015 Wimbledon passionately and was disappointed that Nadal has not yet gotten back his winning form. Obviously, the heroic performance displayed by Serena Williams and Novak Djokovic remain memorable. Nonetheless, I remain a die-hard fan of Roger Federer.

Now, this post is not intended to report the competition but to point out something that struck me as I watched the highlight of the final match between Federer and Djokovic. See the picture I captured from their game below.

Chair and line umpires at 2015 Wimbledon.
Chair and line umpires at 2015 Wimbledon.

Did you notice that there are several officials on the court? Come to think of it, most spectators will never bother to find out the names of these officials. Although Djokovic carried the day with his remarkable performance, we will forever recall that it was a man named Federer that reached the final of the competition and was outplayed by his opponent. Hence, the players are more important and captivate more attention than the umpires in any game.

Also, great sports men have an amazing ability to shake off the disappointment of a defeat and prepare to do better in the next game or competition. Every setback should be a catalyst for sustaining our thirst for success, instead of making us quit the race. After he lost, Federer said,

“I am still very hungry and motivated and a match like this is very helpful.”

Guess what? I do not want to be an official (umpire, referee or linesman) in the game of life – I want to be a player. Players will be sweaty and experience emotional highs and lows during the course of the action. On the other hand, officials are the critics who assess the key performers, passing comments about their moves during the game. Just like umpires in tennis are so well dressed, critics are always looking good. They never get their hands soiled, never sweat and are better at using their mouths than their hands. Critics are self-appointed umpires to successful people and they never attempt anything laudable – they live a passionless life that is not devoted to anything remarkable. They are satisfied with the normal order of activities; take little or no risk at attaining something unusual, many times because of the fear of failing. They drift about without any definite sense of purpose and do not motivate or stir our souls about their noteworthy goals or achievements.

Theodore Roosevelt captured my thoughts succinctly:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, … who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

In summary, it’s the players and not the umpires who stand a chance to win awards and laurels in life. I prefer to be the former. What about you?

Best,

LEKE

Usain Bolt has a coach, why not you?

Recently, I had to venture into uncharted waters and went to seek guidance (that will continue periodically) from someone I know, who is more experienced than I in that area.

‘Who is your coach?’ These were the words of Dylan in Akeelah and the Bee. Indeed the greatest athletes around us today credit their success to not only the remarkable talent that they were blessed with, but also the coaches who discipline and help them reach their potential.

Ours is the independent generation. Gen Y and Gen Z possess skills and smartness that stupefy our parents. We have excelled at what the older generation thought impossible and appear to know it all. We seem to learn whatever we want by googling it or enrolling for some online course on Coursera or EdX. bolt-speed

However, I learned a lesson during the London 2012 Olympics that has remained with me ever since. Usain Bolt, who is the most successful sprinter in human history, when asked his plans for the future after his Olympics success said, ‘My coach and I will discuss what we need to.’  He had learned to defer to the leadership of a coach in his life and career. Bolt had credited his achievement in setting three world records at the previous Olympics in Beijing to the same coach, Glen Mills.

Therefore, no matter how talented you are, involving a coach in your life will help you reach the highest attainments faster than you ever imagined.

Applications of coaching

  • career
  • personal finance
  • marriage
  • entrepreneurship
  • spiritual growth and ministerial calling
  • health and fitness etc.

How to choose a coach – without paying a dime 

  • Your coach need not be a world-class player or achiever. (Bolt’s coach never won a world-class medal when he was an athlete.) Let it simply be someone who has won your respect and to whom you can easily submit yourself to their guidance. There is no point in choosing a coach you won’t listen to!
  • Choose someone you have access to. Don’t tell me that Zuckerberg or Dangote is your coach in business!
  • Choose a coach who will give you time and teach you the tricks you need to fly. If you realize that the person you chose is too busy. Go for someone else.
  • Avoid someone who will not tell you the hard truth. What’s the use in hearing what is pleasing if it will not be helpful in the end?

In conclusion, Google is not sufficient to make you reach your potential. Reading good books too is not adequate either. So, I ask you, ‘Who is your coach?’ 

In what other areas can we apply coaching/mentorship? Do you have other insights about coaching? Please feel free to share.

Leke Babayomi blogs at lekebabayomi.wordpress.com

Follow him on twitter @lekebabayomi

Brace yourself to purchase a copy of his soon-to-be-released book: “The Silent Killer.”

GREATNESS IS BETTER THAN RICHES

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I started this series by stating that, “being rich won’t make you successful.”

Later, I said that success is finding out what you were made to do and getting just that done, while your breath lasts.

In this post, I will conclude the series.

Greatness is indeed better than riches! Not all rich people are great, and not all great people are rich. But I believe that with a little bit of financial education, no great person will end up being poor. Besides, among the top 10 voted as the most significant figures in history, greatest Africans in history, most influential Jews in history, greatest Britons of all time, none was voted because of their wealth. In fact, some of them could not be considered rich by this world’s standards.mandeka

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In my opinion, it’s better to pursue greatness than riches. Greatness speaks of excellence, impeccable character and lasting impact. Therefore I will prefer to lay down my life to be great than kill myself for riches.

Wealth is not the end in itself, but is a by-product in the pursuit of greatness. Thus, I encourage you to aim to be a:

  • great teacher
  • great entrepreneur
  • great scientist
  • great social worker
  • great parent
  • great engineer
  • great pastor
  • great (wo)man in the sight of God etc

…than to try be the RICHEST MAN ON EARTH.

We have found out that great people are never poor, except of course they opt for it, or make grave errors in financial management.

Come to think of it. Jesus encouraged us to pursue greatness through humility. The bible talks of prosperity but teaches that those who aim to be rich at all cost will end up harming themselves (and I believe many others around them too).

If you pursue greatness and make lasting impact in other people’s lives, I do not believe that you will ever be poor. Instead, you will have access to all that you need and far much more than you can use up in a lifetime!

Thanks for stopping by.

LEKE
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RICHES WON’T MAKE YOU SUCCESSFUL – PT 2

gatesI have two confessions to make:

  • I believe that poverty is not only evil, it is a curse! (No pun intended.)
  • I believe in financial prosperity!

As a matter of fact, success means different things to different people. For some it’s about lots of money, reaching career goals, being in touch with family and friends and so forth.buffet

Remember that if you judge a fish by its ability to fly, you will call it a failure. If you were born to be a superb teacher and you continue to be pressured by society to measure your success in life by how many exotic cars you have parked in the garage, you have indeed set yourself up for failure.slim helu

My Definition of Success

Success is finding out what you are wired to do and getting it done! Success is discovering your purpose on earth and completing it. Myles Munroe, of blessed memory, devoted time to explain this fact to us very clearly. In a way, it is listening to that inner voice within you that is telling you what you were born to do, over what people have labelled you.

A man’s life does not consist in and is not derived from possessing overflowing abundance or that which is over and above his needs.1 Therefore, the measure of a person’s impact and influence is not in how much he is worth in economic currency. It is measured by how we were able to use our abilities and uniqueness to bless humanity.

So, when you feel pressured to go after lots of money instead of creating value that gives you inner peace and makes a difference in others’ lives, remind yourself that money will never last as long as a good name and legacy.

  1. Luke 12:15 (Amplified version)branson

Riches won’t make you successful – Pt 1

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Now, don’t bury me before I die. Hear me out first.

I believe that it’s fantastic to earn lots of money, drive unusual cars, travel the world, and so forth. These are the measures of success that are flashed in the faces of young people every day.

Nonetheless, I think we’re missing something out in our definition of success. We’re guilty of a logical fallacy called hasty generalization. Consider the following examples:

  1. Because the guy who crashed into my car this morning is a 23-year old, therefore all 23-year old men are reckless drivers.
  2. James earns lots of money. So James is a successful guy.

Examples 1 and 2 are similar because the conclusion was reached before we gathered sufficient facts to back up our claim.

Someone (probably not Einstein) said, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

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Therefore, if we generalise the standard of success in life to be the ability to climb trees, only arboreal animals will be termed successful.

Similarly, concerning riches, when we put an absolute parameter for success in life as the amount of money a person is worth or makes, we are excluding other parameters that measure success in other areas of life.

In December 2013, Time magazine created a list of the most significant figures in history. Although the list is controversial, the first five names in the list were Jesus, Napoleon, Mohammad, Shakespeare and Abraham Lincoln. Many of those featured on the list were never considered among the richest in their time. However, they were considered influential in their areas of specialization: national leadership, science, literature, religion etc.

In my opinion, our present, widespread definition of success is distracting. This wrong definition is the reason that some persons (especially males and young people) are under unnecessary pressure to make money that they do not need. Not everyone needs lots of money to be successful! (Wow, it appears that I am puncturing the ideas of pundits. I love this!)

So, what is success? This will be the subject of my next post! Do stick around.

Remain on top.

LEKE