This is piece is culled from Letting Go, an article whose author I am yet to determine. It underscores the place of understanding friendship and their seasons in our lives. Happy reading!
‘There is a time for everything, and everything on earth has its special season.’
Ecclesiastes 3:1 NCV
Friendships are very important in our lives. Friends help us through the tough times, and celebrate with us in the high points. But sometimes our friendships are just for a season. We need to ask for God’s wisdom to know which relationships we need to let go of, and which we need to fight for.
When people drift away from us, we can either try and fight for the friendship, or we can let them go. People leave us because they’re not joined to us. And if they’re not joined to us, we shouldn’t try to make them stay. It doesn’t mean they’re bad people; it just means that their part in our story is over (or that our part in their story is over).
We need to try and understand when a relationship is over, and graciously let people go, knowing that whatever relationships God means us to have, He’ll provide. Clinging to a relationship when its season has ended will only lead to heartbreak. After Lot left him, Abraham entered a new level of God’s blessing. When Orpah left Naomi and went back home to Moab, Ruth stayed with her, and both Naomi and Ruth were blessed by God.
While the end of a friendship or relationship can be upsetting, God can bring new things into our lives and help us to have relationships with new people who can help us along the journey God’s taking us on. We should also consider that continuing the relationship once that season has ended could be holding the other person back from their own journey with God. If we’re holding on to people who don’t belong in our lives, let’s ask God to help us let them go.
What Now? Think of any friendships in your life that are starting to fade. Take some time to ask God whether you should let them go or invest in them again.