The Proverbs 31 Man


The 31st book of Proverbs has been well-known for revealing several pleasant qualities of a virtuous woman. She is diligent, industrious, a home-keeper, provides healthy food to her family and so forth. We have put a lot of pressure on women to step up their game and many of them have done so.

However, the 11th, 23rd and 28th verses reveal the man behind the exceptional woman:

11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.

So, let’s introduce the Proverbs 31 man:

  1. He is fully confident in his wife’s abilities. This may be because he is encouraging her to continue to grow or has already supported her to a level of proficiency.
  2. He is influential in the city.
  3. He is a man of honor.
  4. He is successful in his calling, profession and career.
  5. He is worthy to sit among the elders of the city.
  6. He is respected by the elders of the city.
  7. He is financially comfortable enough to hire maids for his wife.
  8. His family has enough disposable income for his wife to buy a piece of land for gardening.
  9. He is a motivation to his wife: he praises her and brings the best out of her.
  10. He does not compete with his wife, but complements her.
  11. He does not put his wife down before their children, so the kids respect her.
  12. He praises his wife before his children.

The lessons for me are that the Proverbs 31 woman became so because she was supported by a P.31 man. Nonetheless, I commend several Proverbs 31 women that we have today, who became so without a P.31 husband motivating them to that level.

These are my initial thoughts; there are indeed several other scriptural qualities of a godly man. We really need more P.31 men today. What do you think? And what other qualities of P.31 men can we find? Please write them as comments.



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5 thoughts on “The Proverbs 31 Man”

  1. Gbim, gbimer, gbimest👍🏽. Thank you….so much. For writing this. We are indeed lacking in P.31 men and it’s so unfortunate.
    I knew there had to be a Proverbs 31 man. But I felt it would be emotionally exhausting to say something about that, when in every Christian women’s meeting, that seems to be the anthem.
    We are led to believe that only when we are “all that”, can we expect any praise or respect from our husbands.
    We are told that whatever our husbands do is our fault.
    A woman feels defeated when a woman of God says, a woman who can’t give her husband #1m, is useless.
    Such a damaging statement from a woman to women, gives me a better understanding of how Julius Caesar felt when he said, “Et u Brute?” He felt betrayed, hurt, forsaken, and defeated. It wasn’t the stabs that killed him. It was the betrayal.
    Thank you for fighting for women and being your sisters’ keeper.
    Deborah’s husband must have been Proverbs 31 man.
    Men are to groom their brides.
    God gives us Men of honour, strength and love.
    And God gives women who are wholesome, loving and gracious in thoughts and in deeds.

    1. Thank you Ade-Oluwa for sharing your insightful thoughts. Much appreciated. And yes, we really need to appreciate women, while encouraging men to be role models in every respect.

  2. Thanks a lot for this, never saw it that way! And for me I think the Proverb 31man starts from the first verse of that chapter! He is a king and a good judge who has good moral standards and executes justice, who doesn’t go in the line of the hopeless and sinful to get drunk but is full of life and wisdom, he is full of strength, channeling it aright and not giving it to women! Definitely such a kingly man is worthy of the pro31 vs 10 to 31 wife!

    1. Fantastic. Thanks DamilolaD for adding to our lessons on this P.31 man, who is indeed worthy of the Proverbs 31 woman. Over time most of the emphasis has been on women being right, which is okay.

      However, if men can wake up to their divinely ordained leadership roles, through exemplary character and at home, we’ll have heaven on earth in homes and the society too.

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