Marriage is an empty box at the start.
What you put in it is what you get; and it’s better to keep it full so that it remains pleasant.
Make a habit of putting into your marriage more than you seek to take from it.
Some things to fill your marriage box with: love, joy, intimacy, generosity, kindness, serving and a habit of giving.


I am not a marriage expert, nor could I possibly have all the secrets to a happy marriage, but there is a wonderful book which carries some extremely good advice on how to live together as husband and wife and how to have your life together blessed in countless ways. The book is God’s own message to us in the Bible, which He breathed into the pens of men many years ago. The Bible, though ancient in its conception, is still pertinent today in all areas of our lives.

Here are ten references to specific elements of a great marriage:

  • 1 John 4:7 Refers to placing God at the head of your house. Having Him as your chief advisor makes some of the tough decisions easier and He also promises to bless those who trust in Him.
  • 1 Corinthians 11:11 & Genesis 2:24 talks about a total commitment to each…

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Lips Zipped ~

Keeping sealed lips is so important so that we do not make more hearts to bleed in a grief-stricken world. You never know what others are passing through. A careless word from you could make them fall apart.

CHRISTian poetry ~ by deborah ann

If more people would keep,
their lips zipped . . .
less hearts would be
torn apart and ripped.

If more people would use,
their words carefully . . .
less hearts would feel
so dreadfully.

If more people would hold,
their angry words at bay
less hearts would be
hurt by want they say.

If more people would use,
their words thoughtfully . . .
less hearts would be
feeling so awfully.

If more people would keep,
their lips zipped and sealed
more hearts to Jesus . . .
could be won and healed!


Psalm 141:3

Set a watch, O Lord,
before my mouth;
keep the door of my lips.

King James Version
Public Domain

Copyright 2019
Deborah Ann Belka

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Pastors should be careful what they preach. Stop making guarantees on behalf of God, else people will try to use Him. He’s not MMM
“You do this, God will do that. You act this way God will do this for you.” 
Preacher, be careful! People are getting more and more disappointed with God. These messages are producing more anger than motivation to several observers (including many in the church). They are looking warily at both you and God as charlatans.  
People are getting more and more disappointed with God.
Friend, there is no guarantee that if you do this and that with respect to God, He will give some predictable output. Now, someone thinks that I’m shaking the table. Well, I have learned that everything rises and falls on your relationship with Him. Yes, your relationship with the Holy Spirit. If you are too busy for a relationship with Him, your future in God is uncertain. God is too big to be used. Don’t be misled by testimonies. You heard how someone gave some offering or made a vow to God, and got a miracle. You were motivated and did same, there was no result. You went a notch higher and increased the sacrifice, yet no result. You heard a testimony of how some person fasted for three days and got a spiritual gift or answer to prayer. You replicated the act and didn’t get any result. You felt that, maybe, if you increased yours to seven, fourteen or twenty-one days, God would pity you and answer. Unfortunately,  the heavens remained closed. After series of disappointments like these, you painfully and logically concluded that it is either these things that pastors and bible teachers preach are false or that God is partial. You could even be a pastor currently in a crisis about your faith in God. You are wondering if what you had been preaching is still tenable in today’s world. 
I make bold to say that God is not partial! He is faithful to His word. His word is not outdated. Don’t be moved by the recent news of certain notable persons kissing God goodbye. He is looking for you. Yes, he wants you. He is calling you to a more intimate relationship with him. He wants your heart. He wants your genuine attention. He wants you to love Him not for what he can give you or do for you, but for who He is. He wants your love,  even if he chooses not to answer your prayers. He wants you to come to a place where He is your final bus-stop and you don’t have any Plan B, C, D or E outside of His will for you.
In my opinion, King Saul did less than the sin of adultery and murder that David committed, yet God forsook him and declared that David was his favoured one. Was God partial? Maybe He was. But you see, God is interested in the heart. That’s why we need to understand God’s ways. David was a man with a broken and contrite heart. When Saul’s sin was exposed to him, he replied, “I have sinned. But please honour me before the elders of my people and before Israel…” (1 Samuel 15:30). However, when David’s sin was brought to his awareness, he said, “I have sinned against the Lord” (2 Samuel 12:13). “Have mercy upon me O God… Against you, you only have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight” (Psalm 51:1, 4). So, if you were God, who would have found favour with you – Saul or David? 
The key question  is, ‘What is the state of your heart?’ How is your relationship with Jesus? Do you give Him time in worship, prayer and the study of His word? Do you seek him genuinely? Or is your prayer life all about, ‘give me this or that, kill my enemies, do not put me to shame…etc?’ Are you really interested in finding out more about Him, His likes and dislikes, His ways of relating with men, the secrets to the manifestation of His glory on the earth? 
When God disappoints us, it’s not because He is incapable, it’s  rather a sign that we don’t know and understand Him as we ought to.
What is your motivation for going to church or calling yourself a Christian? Were you raised in a Christian family and are yet to find out who God is for yourself? Did a problem or personal crisis bring you to God and He solved it for you? After sometime with Him, He  wants you to  know Him more closely; to learn and understand who He is by study, fellowship with believers, prayer and revelation by the Holy Spirit.
In conclusion, when God disappoints us, it’s not because He is incapable, it’s  rather a sign that we don’t know and understand Him as we ought to.
Think on this.