Chika Ike’s Celebration of 5 months of #Celibacy


I really did not want to comment on this matter. But after pushing the draft of this post aside for three days, I could no longer hold myself from publishing it.

It is no longer news that a few days ago, one of Nollywood’s frontline actresses, Chika Ike took to twitter to publicise her landmark achievement in keeping herself for 5 months. Quoting her,

“I must say it[‘]s not easy being celibate… Five months and still counting…wowI”

While her intentions for the announcement are unclear, I guess it was done out of joy and sheer amazement that she had never been able to keep herself in check for that long since she first tasted the golden apple. On a lighter note, the mischievous part of me thinks she did it for one of two reasons: probably for the Pope to beatify her or for the United Nations to appoint her an Ambassador for Peace Abstinence. But is 5 months of self-denial sufficient a reason to roll out the drums for a national celebration?

About five years ago, my good friend and mentor got married. Shortly after his wedding, he told me with pride how he “verified” that his 28-year old wife was a virgin. They had both waited until their wedding night. I can imagine that his respect for the lady went above the roof. In Africa, it is still a thing of honour, even among educated young folks, when a man meets his wife intact. I know that what a person decides to do with this department of their lives is their own business and the matter remains private until they disclose it.

Anyway, Miss Chika, I admire your courage and praiseworthy decision to stop the games and wait. This is a choice that more people are encouraged to make. (My view from a godly perspective.) However, know that you can only claim success in this goal if you are able to sustain your man’s thirst until after you both say, “I do.”

My intention is not to tell off the beautiful artiste. On the contrary, I wish to encourage girls, boys, ladies and gentlemen to not settle for low standards. Set your sights high. For goodness sake, you can do better than 5 months! You can maintain a clean slate from cradle until the day you say “I do”. And just in case you have been broken (whether you’re male or female); you can still sit up today and say, like Chika,

“I will wait…until I make my marriage vows with Mr Right or Miss Gorgeous.”

Yes you can, God helping you!

Does anyone out there agree with me?

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#Poem: Just write


Something always draws you away to the place of quiet

There’s a rumbling within that dies

only after you’ve put pen to paper

Every time you see a creative piece

An inner voice screams, “You can do that too!”

Writing gives you that sense of satisfaction

Exceeding what money can provide

Strangely, your goal isn’t attention

You don’t care if lots of people read that piece

You just don’t know why you do what you do

It’s ‘cos you were born to write

It’s ‘cos there’s a message in you

It’s ‘cos God wants to use your pen to change lives

So, don’t quench the fire, just write!

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I black – a poem

Here’s a funny poem that made me laugh. Enjoy it.

When I born, I black
When I grow up, I black
When I go in Sun, I black
When I scared, I black
When I sick, I black
And when I die, I still black

And you white fellow
When you born, you pink
When you grow up, you white
When you go in sun, you red
When you cold, you blue
When you scared, you yellow
When you sick, you green
And when you die, you gray
And you calling me colored??
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( This poem was nominated by UN as the best poem of 2006 , Written
by an African Kid)

Practice makes perfect  – not with #sex

practice perfect

I don’t know why I like facts and figures. Maybe it’s the engineer in me at work. Check out these comments by a former sociologist at Ohio State University:

Dr. Nancy Moore Clatworthy was asked,

“But doesn’t living together before marriage help to iron out some of the disagreements that every marriage inevitably must face?”

Her answer based on research work:

“…In every area, the couples who had lived together before marriage disagreed more often than the couples who had not. But the finding that surprised me most concerned sex. Couples who had lived together before marriage disagreed about it more often.”

So, contrary to popular myth, practice doesn’t help you enjoy sex better. Aww. Bad news for those banging practising hard now in preparation for their wedding night ;).

I know that this post is gonna make some people hate me, but I leave the conclusion to you to make!

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#Married men live longer – are you kidding me?

newly wed

Guess what? I just found out something unusual. I’m reading The Bare Facts  by Josh McDowell and stumbled upon a couple of other unusual facts as well. Let me share some with you.

  1. Married men live longer than those who stay unmarried by an average of 10 years (I can hear someone scream, seriously?)
  2. Married men earn more money, taking into consideration the average earnings of married men.
  3. Married men enjoy sex better – still speaking of averages.
  4. The kids of married couples are generally more successful in life
  5. The kids of married couples are more likely to earn a college degree
  6. Men who cohabit may not last long in marriage. Cohabiting couples who eventually get married are twice as likely to divorce as those who don’t cohabit before marriage.
  7. Married men accumulate more assets than unmarried men. (Is someone squirming like me, thinking, “How do they do it despite all the family expenses? “)
  8. Marriage generally improves mental health – while marital crisis and divorce are out of the picture.

Without further ado, armed with the above facts, I am heading for the altar ASAP!

Truthfully, I’m yet to find out why married men live longer. Please drop a line in the comments if you know why.

Leke Babayomi blogs at

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There’s more to turning 18 than 18-rated movies.


On a recent trip to the UK, an online advert popped up on my laptop screen. It read,

“Use your age wisely. Register to vote. There’s more to turning 18 than 18 rated movies.”

The ad was placed by the electoral commission to motivate recent 18-year-olds to participate in the United Kingdom general elections on 7th May, 2015.

I think a similar logic applies to several areas of our lives too.

There’s more to going to college than getting a degree; get a well-rounded education.

There’s more to having a job than having it pay your bills; make an impact there.

There’s more to a career than earning tonnes of money; fulfillment in your career helps you to truly enjoy the money that you make.

There’s more to money than just spending it; save and invest it wisely.

There’s more to getting married than bed-related events; prepare for sundry responsibilities too.

There’s more to relationships than just having a BF or GF; be there for your friends when they need a shoulder to lean on.

There’s more to life than just existing; find out the meaning of your life.

There’s more to time than just being busy or relaxing; make every second count towards the ‘big picture’.

There’s more to going to church than sitting in the pew; go for a real relationship with God.

Let’s continue the flow. You can construct and share your own rhymes in the comment box.

Leke Babayomi blogs at

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